Everything you are saying is correct and I am doing my best to focus on me. It has taken me a while, but I am fully aware that any changes I make need to be for my own benefit, not someone elses.
But, I think everyone can relate - your spouse has been your partner for years. When they fail, you fail. When they succeed, you succeed. When they hurt, you hurt. When they experience joy, you experience joy.
I was lying in bed last night with my W right there next to me. I soooo, wanted to cuddle up to her and hold her because I know she is hurting, struggling, etc. She needs support, understanding and comfort more now than at any point in her life and it rips my insides to shreds that she is alone and feeling so distant from connection, when it is literally lying next to her.
