I am catching up on your sitch and I can say that I know the struggles and challenges you are going through.
I am still learning to keep it together and follow the advice in these forums as well as the Dbing. So my thoughts may be a little textbook, but I know in my heart they are the best options we have.
Dbing is not about getting the WAS to notice us so much as it is about us becoming the best possible spouse, parent, and individual that we can be. There should be zero expectation for the WAS as this is where we learn that we can only control ourselves. By Dbing you will heal,become a better man, and only God willing, maybe intrigue will be created where the WAS will start to be curious.
So in short do it for you first, the children, and then no matter what happens you will be in the best place possible for whatever opportunity the future holds.
I send you my support and have your family in my prayers that everything turns out for the best.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
