One thing to remember is that a walk away spouse (WAS) will re-write history and come up with things to throw back at you that aren't true. As a left behind spouse LBS myself I know from my own example that this is true. What I try to tell myself is that what she is saying while we are both hurting isn't important and to not rise to the words.

Fortunately for me my wife is still in the house and we generally have a polite relationship although I think she has a lot of anger bottled up right now. I'm able to in other contexts and conversations - not while this is being thrown at me - mention for example that generally I "do" like her family (except her sister) and that I "do" like my job which are two of the things that she's thrown at me.

Keep strong and focus on yourself and D.

On BD
H52, W50
T27, M26
S21, D23
BD-9-Mar-16
D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18
I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good.
But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells