I'm looking for advice, I don't know if I should just move on or wait. I love my husband but I have know idea who this man is. He seems to hate me, we have been married for 29 years and he just acts like I don't exist.
Xmas 2014 he was very distant, did not buy gifts for anyone. He did not want to celebrate. For months, some times he was nice other times distant. He stayed home on our family vacation. He told us to go with out him and then he got mad we went.
June 2015 He said I don't want to live here anymore and left. 1 week later he came back saying he doesn't feel that way he cant figure out why he said that. so I took him back
September on our anniversary same thing he left this time for 2 weeks then came back again I took him back. He said he felt numb in side and thought he had something wrong with him.
October, I don't love you anymore. But I will stay because I'm obligated to. I said no you can go. And he left. I gave him a month and did not speak to him. When I reached out, he was a mean and cold person I didn't even recognize this person. He sent me nasty emails saying he could not be with me anymore because I paid his bills sometimes after the due date (ok). We have not spoken at all since.
Now we are in April. I have got a life, signed up for classes, I don't speak about him to anyone, I don't ask my kids about him. My daughter and I went away for a week and when I got home, he left nasty messages on the phone, this time he says I am keeping my daughter from him. He is also saying untrue and mean things about me. He did this when he first left. Is he maybe in a different stage now. We had a planned vacation and he knew that. I don't think there is another women, he works 18 hours a day but who knows.
Will this ever change, I would like my family back, but I don't know what to do.
