Ok...
One boundary I want to set is having him take part in raising the kids..help me phrase it.

If he decides to move downstairs; how do I say that so I am not acting like his mother? Also, if he moves downstairs does that mean I no longer have to cook his meals, do his laundry? etc..

I would like him to stop calling ow (obviously...) but that wouldn't be a boundary I should set right now, correct?