Phoebe, would you date and start a relationship with someone you knew was capable of infidelity?
I know that there are times when infidelity has been the catalyst to improve a relationship for the better. ( I have seen this before). Especially if spouse is truly remorseful and wants back. But with serial cheating I think it's a no go.
Cheating might be a symptom, but to me it's a symptom in which a person cannot cope when things get tough. They cannot deal with reality. Life is filled with hardships, and stresses. It is inevitable. I value loyalty more then anything because I am loyal. (To friends and family as well)
Even knowing my relationship would be better I could not forgive. My own issues/beliefs/values I guess. + more. But everyone is different. Perhaps my views on sex are old fashioned and not very evolved and I am not strong enough to forgive.
I see that we have some stuff in common regarding husband that I was embarassed to discuss. I am going to try to catch up with your situation.
