She has worked a decade in that company to get to where she is at. Highly respected, year on year top performer, pretty much sought after by upper management for projects. Her job is literally her second home. Part of her identity even.
That is something i could not ask her to change when she was still in love with me. Far fetched now that she doesnt.
Your choice, and hers, to put the job above the M.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
