But I think there is more to it as to why we become so attached to someone that is treating us in a way that goes against our own core beliefs (myself included). I think in these cases, when spouse has broken a known and established boundary that sanctifies the very definition of marriage we have to remind ourselves "I love spouse, but I love me more"
I understand the argument that if we do that we are behaving no differently then a WAS. But I really believe that there are certain boundaries that need to be enforced. Cheating does seem to be your boundary.
Writing it off as it being love and due to the heart is sentimental and I get it, but at the same time we have to look at things practically. What makes husband so special that you are willing to look beyond your boundaries? What makes anyone so special that we would be willing to look past such harm and disrespect to our own spirits?
or is it something more?
I agree That once you disconnect, you will feel differently. It's so hard when it's our situation we are dealing with. you are doing all the right things.
