Hello, Have been M to H 6yr/T 12. He is 30 me 32. He let me know in Feb has been sorting feelings since Jan. He said unhappy but cares and loves me In later convo turned into no feelings at all. He mentioned lacking confidence so didn't explore before we were "us." It was painful to take in. we had a miscarriage in Dec but he said not relevent.
by accident (through linked device) saw msg to a male coworker friend, that H has a crush on their coworker. She may be aware but do know from the convo that hasn't been reciprocated. Still painful he is w/ this person and placing his attention away from our marriage. I question if this is why he feels he has lost feelings for me?
I have been patient, positive, checking emotions, working on me, no relationship talk. I got defensive at beginning but then learned to handle better. We are still in same bed, watch tv and hug good night (going through motions). I suggest fun things to do but a bust so far. He will ask me on errands but not looking into that gesture that much. Other things have slowly gone like kisses, I love you, wearing ring. He told me not to worry that everyone at work knows he is married. I said still bothers me and symbols he is avail.
He doesn't feel unhappiness and loss of feelings has room in marriage is fixable. And he is not sure he shares my thoughts on rebuilding and getting through together. In last couple wks he looked up twice info on D so that was unsettling to see. I have an exercise letter to write from a similar program that hopefully will help me get thoughts across. I feel defeated somewhat but trying to keep going. Would appreciate feedback from similar experiences. All I know we can get through and be stronger got it. hope he realizes it as well.
