5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.

[LiM]

Part i dont get, she says she has checked out so why are we still together? Why hasn't she pushed for separation? It cant be cake eating, we both earn the same and enough to live comfortably individually. I know she hasnt told anyone else, i feel she is waiting for me to give up just so she can say its a mutual decision to go our separate ways.

Its because she's conflicted. She doesn't know what to do right now. You can't guide or direct her either. All you can do is put your focus on yourself and work on YOU. That's the only thing you have control over. Show her how awesome Natus can be. Dont point it out to her. Just be awesome and she'll notice.

Her employment situation makes this very difficult. VERY difficult. Typically, you have to go strictly NC in order to break these things. You will have to watch her like a hawk and don't trust her. She will lie, lie, lie. If she is truly remorseful, I would think that she would find a way to avoid having contact with him (leaving her job or at least moving to a different department if that is even possible.)