it could also be habit. I have been told that wife is ready to 'let me have some'. She has initiated once, and i have initiated once. I really don't know how to initiate any more though..that disappeared years ago. I will start by giving some physical affection...but that is nothing different...usually it leads to nothing...so unless she then gives me some more indication, i can't 'push' without feeling like i'm trying to force myself upon her.
