You are in a hard spot right now. The A has been exposed but as I know first hand, that doesn't mean it has stopped. It could be still going on right under your nose. Has your W expressed any remorse? Has she admitted to any wrong doing? Or is she just wanting to sweep all this under the rug.
Im not sure if its remorse but i confronted her today and she says her and OM hasnt been speaking since the "intervention" if you can call it that. She maintains however that the problems is between me and her and that just because she is not seeing OM does not mean we will get back together. She has checked out of our relationship and the EA just happened to be there.
Despite everything she has agreed that until we are separated that we wont see other people, EA or otherwise.
Part i dont get, she says she has checked out so why are we still together? Why hasn't she pushed for separation? It cant be cake eating, we both earn the same and enough to live comfortably individually. I know she hasnt told anyone else, i feel she is waiting for me to give up just so she can say its a mutual decision to go our separate ways.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
In order for the M to stand a chance, she has to change her place of employment.
She has worked a decade in that company to get to where she is at. Highly respected, year on year top performer, pretty much sought after by upper management for projects. Her job is literally her second home. Part of her identity even.
That is something i could not ask her to change when she was still in love with me. Far fetched now that she doesnt.
My only silver lining is that the company is winding down its operations although that is still 2-3 years off.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
