What the ages of you and wife? It helps to have more information about the history of the MR.
Does your W hold down a FT job? Why are you working two jobs?
If she leaves your home & marriage, and tears apart the family.........why does she think she should still be included in the family vacation? That is pretty big cake eating!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!