Based on the aadictive nature of affairs, and the behavior patterns of a WW in an A, I strongly advise you not to trust either of them. I can pretty much tell you what happened the next working day after OM's W and sister took him to your house and he denied feelings for your W. She goes to work and is angry and hurt at him, so he sweet talks her and assures her it was just an act b/c he had to convince his W and sister b/c of what they will try to do to him. Anyway, your W buys into his b.s. b/c she wants desperately to believe him.

What I find hard to believe is that you actually think they went back to the same routine and the affair just ended b/c of what was said at your house that night. Let me tell you three things, for now. 1). As long as she is in any type of contact with OM, her EA will not likely end. That's like expecting an heroin addict to get clean while he's shooting up. 2). You cannot trust her at her word, right now. 3). In order for the M to stand a chance, she has to change her place of employment.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!