I get that GAL is hard with kids. Can you sit down with W and hammer out a schedule? Does your 17yr old watch the younger ones, as in W will be home in an hour(ish) so you can leave and do your own thing?
I don't leave my 15yr old with any of the younger ones as he has no patience for his 10yr old brother, the twins are just a flipping handful & Lilly has medical issues so she isn't left with ANYONE.

My suggestions, go for a massage (cheaper ones at massage/beauty schools)
Go to the gym
Go sit at Panera/bookstore/coffee shop and post/read here

Do whatever you can to NOT be there when your wife comes home. She needs to see you as a strong & mysterious man that has a great social life. New cologne, a new shirt, or shoes...

What's your current style? Casual, sporty?

Ok, gotta take my twins to preschool.... post more later


Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction