Thanks focus. I know it's material, but right now I'm loving anything that makes me feel good about myself. So why not show it and let my sass flow through my clothing.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Yes, those shoes are well beyond my functional Dansko budget, but I love the attitude behind them!!!
Way to go, Cherry! And also those latest baby steps on your H's part sound like real things - looking you in the eye, washing dishes. Good things.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Yeah, it's greats that there are some baby steps, just trying not to build any expectations or hopes.
It appears that my regained swagger is drawing in many other men who are not my husband. A guy at work asked me to come "chill" at his house. I firmly made it clear I'm married. And I've had other men pass their numbers over, needless to say- I firmly said I'm married. And pulled out one of v's cut and keep "no" s (thanks v!!)
Whilst I am flattered, it's hard when you don't really feel married. These people don't know I'm having any troubles, I still wear my ring. And I'm not out flirting. Idk, maybe a married woman is the ultimate fantasy for some guys.
I'd sooner avoid these situations whilst in a vulnerable place
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Well that is great I guess. Just remember that beauty comes from the inside, and through values and beliefs. If you are single in the future and you have worked out your own issues and figured what you want in a partner, sounds like you will have an easy time knowing if/when that special person comes along. Go through the journey, you can't skip steps. You are still very young.
Ralph88 Me 40s W 30s, D5 D3 , M7 T9 2013 B drop 1, EA found 2016 B drop 2, EA/PA? 2/16 Physical Seperation 2/16 I filed for D 4/16 PA Confirmed
I don't want to skip the steps in any sense. I agree, and I look for a person with a good heart and who is caring and loving. But this is why I'm fighting the good fight, admist his current problems, and reluctance to want to be in a r with me, I love my h. Which is why, although I'm vulnerable- I emphasise I'm married. Because I am still.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Good for you, Cherry. Sometimes it is hard for outsiders to see why we're still trying.
My therapist asked me today if I had thought about other relationships in the future. I answered, that no, I'm still involved with this one. As long as I hold out any hope for my M, then other relationships aren't on my radar at all. He told me that the reason he asked is that he is concerned that I will have trouble learning to trust people again. The reality is, that is going to be true, no matter who the new relationship is with, either my current H or someone else. I have a lot of healing to do.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Your H seems to be taking small steps towardz you.
Hopefully your H can see from the other guys' attraction to you that he will be more than a blithering idiot if he were to leave you.
You're a gorgeous mummy (with gorgeous shoes and swagger) and it's not hard to see why the men would be attracted to you. Mindreading here but these men are probably attracted to the forbidden fruit, plus they may feel that you're safer as they know you won't leave your M.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
