Just checking in. I get those feelings, too. It's hard to control the urge to shout a big F-U to his friends and family.
But what good would that do, really? Doesn't seem wise to burn that bridge. She means kindly, she is reaching out to you in a way that feels right to her. To read it as gloating seems like you are putting a certain (negative) spin on it. Could it be possible that she feels terrible about what happened, and this is her way of showing you some support and empathy? Would it do you any harm to perceive it that way?
Say thank you graciously and stfu about the rest of it. If it makes you feel better for accepting the gift, spend the $ on your kids, or make a donation to a cause you care about. Personally, I'd spend it on something consumable -- a movie, a meal, a massage -- something that I'd enjoy but wouldn't leave me with a "thing" to have as a reminder.
