Sandi, I think when I have copied and pasted something that 8203 thing has shown up. I don't know why and it's not meant to mean anything from me.
I was one to spoil my W with gifts and presents, I would buy her things mostly just because I wanted to but at times when I was sorry for things. However I see now that some of the things I did were even when I didn't feel I was 'in the wrong' so to speak. I see, especially last year when I wore myself out building the house, how I completely forgot about myself and lost myself in so many ways. When I tried to stand my ground, I did it wrong, I know now my head was in a mess, my own dog so to speak. This cleared me in so many ways and I see my new path ahead of me. A path to improvement and a better me. I just did everything for her rather than encourage her to get some things done herself. A friend of mine called me a slave to my wife, and now that I have actually said no to the 'princess' she throws out the tantrums and guilt trips.
This is a very hard learning experience but it's the way I need to look at it, a learning experience to find myself again and move on the direction I want to go.
