My XMIL sent me a check for my birthday with a note saying she was proud of me for "doing so well in my new life."
I need to write her a thank you note. She means kindly. But I want to send the gift back and ask her to stop sending me stuff. I can't bring myself to have any positive feelings about her. Our relationship was often strained before the split and there is a tiny tinge of what feels like gloating in her continuing to reach out to me.
That is not likely the case. I had been working really hard on improving my relationship with her the last few years and she had come to rely on me for some things that were really important to her. But I can't muster good feelings about her.
I guess this is just part of what goes on the list of things to bring to the therapist when I start. In the meantime, the note doesn't have to be a masterpiece of gratitude. Just an acknowledgement is sufficient, right?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
