GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

[bigybiz]

Melo: Thanks for your note. I guess the deeper I get into this the confusion springs up. For me the 1st step was realizing that the more of the same was not working. Step 2 - was kicking my own butt Now Step 3. It breaking/changing the`usual patterns and behaviors in the MR. So as I've been changing things about me - I've been trying to change what is expected. For me that requires some "mind reading" If she does this, she expects me to do this. Therefore, when she does this - I need to do something different.

I really do feel great. My body is in great shape, I love what I'm doing with my kids, I have been taking care of the work in the house that is long long overdue and I've been GAL. Seeing friends, buying a motorcycle, etc.

So now, I think I'm ready for anything. Yes, I love dishing out the unexpected. Don't get me wrong it's hard. Yesterday, she pulled something. I was already to fire back and revert to my childish ways. Instead, I took the high ground - I did not even mention it to her. At best, she was relived there was no fight and worst she thinks she can walk all over me. But, I was a great example to my kids, took care of business and did not let it bug me. Don't get me wrong it tool 45 mins to reset - but I did it.

Do I sound like I'm on the right track? What do you think my friend.