Thanks for providing the additional information. Keep coming here and posting. People are reading and thinking about your situation even though they may not post right away. You seem to be on the right track. Spend this time really focusing on yourself. Try not to put too much stock into what he says or does right now. This is all about you and working on your issues. He's got to work on his own. As things unfold, come here and talk about it. There are lots of people here that will help you through this process.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing