I think you need to keep "doing you". I think your wife is still grieving the OM and thus her ups & downs. DON"T get me wrong, this is an important part of the process, but don't be to eager. Don't sweep this under the rug. Until she says with remorse and repentance that she wants to make your M work, you are not out of the woods. The issues that got you into this sitch are in you, your M and your WW. NOT the OM. Just because he is gone, doesn't mean the problem is. If i were you, I would be reading everything I could on piecing, forgiveness, reconciliation and in DEEP prayer. This is probably going to be the hardest part. No expectations and Make sure that you do things right, that she puts in the work. That way you are never in this sitch again. Without fixing the issues, it is only hitting a "Snooze alarm" in you sitch. Keep posting, we are all here for YOU.
