Blindsided and Lost

[Nate14]

So I found Sandi2's post about the nice guy and women respecting their spouses interesting. I've never really been a pushover. At least I don't think so. More complacent but I guess I have been too easy going with my family. Anyways, tonight after I got home from my S soccer game. I had a hotdog for supper and ate by myself instead of with the family earlier. We also took seperated vehicles to the soccer field. She seemed to have her mad on today. Not sure if it's cause I refused supper earlier or not but whatever. That's her problem. So my kids asked me if they could have a hot dog too. I replied "sure you guys can" my W cuts me off and says. No if your not gonna eat what I made you guys for supper then you don't get a hotdog. I spoke up and said I already told them so they can have one. She got mad and stormed out of the house. Don't know where she went off too but, I put my foot down and overrode her with the kids. She's mad now. Not sure how that relates to the rules but I feel she needs a little harshness from me. I've been good for the past week going as dark as I can and trying to detach and GALIng etc. today we were around each other at soccer and after soccer and I decided to stand up for my kids and my decisision, not sure if that's helping my cause. I need to put claims control in my life and make her realize I get a say as well. Was that the wrong Thing to do? What you all think? I felt the anger oozing from her after that. Which I haven't seen in days.