Nate, sadly I'm not sure anything is going to "cut through the fog", the WW do a lot of things to talk themselves into a new reality. At least in my case the thought of everything we've built over 30 years simply being liquidated doesn't seem to do the trick. Doing your own thing is the right thing, just remember to act "as if", and you've got a roommate you only need to be civil to, no more.
I too was a gullible fool, saw all the signs and lived in denial. I guess her having always hated texting and suddenly starting to text a lot should have been some sort of clue, but it wasn't. Isn't it great when they do it right in front of you? That's the WW resentment, lack of respect and rebellion in a nutshell.
You just keep thinking about improving you, and keeping your S&D as sheltered from the coming insanity as possible. Feel free to come and just rant - you'll need some sort of release valve from time to time and can't scare too many friends!
Me: 58 Her: 59 Kids: 0 Dog: 1 ILYBINILWY: 9/15 D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed) Verified OM: 1/11/16 Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)