Hi LiM, I'm new - I've read a lot of your story. Very inspiring. You are the first one I've found in the newcomers forum who is 'piecing'. We had a fight April 6, husband left house April 8. Will tell more details as you would like but my question is - since you've been on here a while, I'm looking for some advice. He has been staying with a friend but wants to come back soon to live in our house - I'd live in guest house - and I know this will be an amazing opportunity to turn things around. He is the one who left a note and later sent text saying he's 'done' etc. Thinks I can't change. Long story short. I have a DB coach. I have underlined almost every page of DR. I know it is up to ME to change his beliefs about me - that I won't change and therefore he will always live in stress. Would you be willing to help me or know someone else on these forums who may be a good match? I am the pursuer, he is the distancer. I already have a therapist myself and am working on my own issues - too many to count! We have only been separated for 2.5 weeks! Early days. Been together almost 16 years. This is a man who had sent me adorable whatsapp messages 3 days before fight. There is a lot of love. thanks!
