Thanks Sandi...so more detaching, less attentiveness. She has stated twice lately, that she wishes she had a new heart and that her heart is torn in pieces and she wished that at least one of the pieces could mend (breaks my heart), but I will detach. We are supposedly moving to a new apt and I am thinking of telling her that we can't be seperated for her to go out and do stuff but married when it comes to bills and groceries, so we are going to have to split things 50/50 instead of the current 75/25. I want to set up a boundary around her getting to the house at 1:30am, but don't know how to word it so it doesn't sound like I'm telling her what to do, rather letting her know where I stand regarding her getting back at that hour.
