I want you to sit and think about the answer to the question I am about to ask. Think back to 18-24 months prior to the BD...what happened? Something may have triggered all of this stuff and it is usually losing a job, a promotion, death of a family member, co-worker or friend, a new baby, etc.
You have to remember her reality is twisted right now and you have to determine whether it's real or Memorex. Even though you might correct her about the facts, her reality is her reality right now and nothing you say or do will change that for her.
Her mother is a key in all of this...did your wife ever mention whether something happened in her childhood, i.e., her mother or her father may not have given her the admiration, attention, recognition and/or love she earned and/or needed.
Think about it and let me know.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
