NYGal: A New Chapter and Hopeful!

[Sotto]

Hi NYG, I'm glad things have taken a more positive turn. From your POV, I would aim for warm and open - and equally very much in favour of taking things slow.

I would certainly think it's a good idea to dip a toe in and start some tentative dating for a few months to see how steady things seem with her. If she gets drawn back to OW during that time, you can back right off as it's boundary time.

However, if she is consistent, you can warm things up a little more. What I wouldn't do at this early stage is trust. I would merely be open to possible R and willing to see how things go. But bear in mind - given her recent choices - she has just joined the ranks of any woman you may choose (or not choose) to develop a R with.

So, all good I think as long as you bear in mind the things that have real value - not words, or actions today - but time and consistency - and it's early days thus far.

Please don't even consider giving up your own place or moving back in together. You have plenty of time to see how things go and for you to move at a pace where you are comfortable and reassured.

Take care xx