So I've been trying to balance being attentive and detaching. My W is very sensitive, so I feel like it doesn't take much to get her out of the fog. This weekend it was finally warm and my W hung out with her Mom in the morning. She got home and then decided that she was going to pick up her aunt , meaning she had to leave again. I got irritated because she hadn't spent much time at all with the kids and here she is leaving (escaping) again. She told me that I should take the kids to the park, I was annoyed so I was dismissive. She left and then I went to take a shower so I could take the kids to the park. Well she changed her mind and got the kids ready to leave while I was showering. I hurried up and got out, didn't even dry myself all the way, and told her I was planning on taking them to the park and then to the zoo. She said that I had been rude for the past week and I didn't answer her when she suggested I go to the park (I thought to myself "because I can do whatever I want with them, you can't leave AND tell me what to do with the kids). I said that I wasn't annoyed and she said that our communication has always been terrible anyway. We ended up going to the park and Zoo together and had a great time. When we got home, she left for 3 hours. I took the kids to church. She got back and was in a fowl mood. I asked her what was up and she said she has a lot on her mind, most of which she can't tell me (OM). I validated and then bought her dinner and some groceries ( she hasn't been eating lately and is real skinny). Did she leave because she felt guilty that she's tearing the family apart? She says she wants to have a talk about us...which I am dreading, they never lead anywhere; just her giving her perverted side of things and me nodding and validating. I feel like we are getting closer and then she pulls away.
