Headed for D - Trying to move on

[J5K]

We are into week 2 of our 2-2-3 nesting plan with the boys.

W spews yesterday when I cam home from work and says that the dinner she made is only for the boys and not me. I just said OK.

We discussed some things about school work for the oldest 3 and then she left for hotel.

I looked up CCard charges and the bill for two nights was $320. She also signed herself and the boys at the gym for $144/month.

At the rate of the hotel spend for 12 nights a month plus gas back and forth to Toronto, she is spending as much as I would have spent on daycare.

I tried to address the issue with her to find a lower priced hotel but she is not budging. I also told her that we can find a one bedroom for less than $1K a month and sign a six month lease which will cost less, plus has a gym and a pool, but she spews back that if I am so concerned with finances then I should go stay at my parents while she stays with the boys in the marital home.

I just can't understand her anymore.

This whole scenario is so high conflict. I cannot control her actions and will have to get Ls involved just for the money management.

Boys told me she went out on a date when she had them this past weekend. Obviously OM. I really dislike her behavior.

At this rate I will not have any money left over from the D and she will bankrupt the family. She continues to blame things on me and I respond that I am really not interested in talking about the past and dismissed myself.