I thought from the day I saw the horrible stuff in the OFP, that she projected on me everything that has happened in her past... things in the OFP seem to be things that her father or others did to her, NOT things I did to her. Or at a minimum, like said previously, caused her to be super sensitive about them. Or a combination of, I triggered a feeling that brought back a memory of something traumatic from her past?
2 days before BD, she listed complaints to me direct, but they were NOT the same things that were in the OFP. Was it because our conversation in person, I was there to point out the truth so she avoided those subjects? Or the "group" that helped her with the OFP gave her "ideas" that directly connected the triggers to her past?
In the last year when her mother started helping all the time, I assumed it was because her mother was making up for abandoning her when she was 14. Reading into what Job said, maybe W was "asking" for the help "because" she was abandoned. Or her mother making it up, brought her back to that time before her mother abandoned her?
S11,'s group, the person above W in the hierarchy, is a friend of mine from high school. I am sure that causes W discomfort also. W absolutely refuses to even talk to this friend.
