Thanks, I have read through whole of it, and sometimes through the text it seemed to me that I detached from some behaviors long time ago, and that is the thing that started this whole process in my wife.
Since there is no point in keeping things half done - I will follow on some detachment areas that I have failed so far.
Me38,W36,D9 M 10y, R 14y
10/11/2015 wants to leave 25/12/2015 definitely wants to leave, makes plans Jan 2016 started DBing Feb 2016 sleeping in separate rooms Sep 2016 sleeping in same room