Get a rubber band and place it on your wrist. Snap that band every time you think about him and what he's doing. I can promise you, if you snap it hard enough, you'll forget about him and focus on that sting.
So, he says he has a meeting this evening. He may or may not have a meeting. He could be playing mind games w/you to see if you'll take the bait and say something. He could be working late, going to the gym, another counseling session, meeting up w/friends. But, whatever he's doing, it's of no concern to you right now. The less you appear interested in what he's doing, the sooner he may start to tell you what he's doing.
You have nothing to fear but fear itself. I think the fear of the unknown is going to drive you nuts unless you find something else to focus on. There's nothing you can do about his meeting or who he is meeting up with even if you had the info except worry that much more. Drop the rope a bit and keep the focus on you and your girls. Watch those finances and the bank book!
You have to start looking at him as a wayward adult teenager right now and yes, they do tend to pluck your nerve and patience as they attempt to grow up. The less you say right now, the better and trust me, when you don't appear interesting in their comings and goings, the more apt they are to start being Chatty Cathys.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
