Forgot to mention in the last post, my IC suggested that my W chooses these friends because they are the same "mental age" as herself. "IF" she grows (comes out of it), she will outgrow the friends. I doubt that will happen, ever. Her mother is similar in mental age (13 yr old?), she never did grow. I always was so thankful my W was smarter than her mother.... but now wonder if "love is blind" just made me think that she was smarter.
S11 and D9 were just involved in an activity with this group. We (me, W, S11, D9) went with this group for this activity last year, they were all drinking the whole time, made me fear the safety of S and D. I asked my kids if they saw any alcohol this time, they said they watched carefully and no one was drinking. My W is forcing them to grow up? Or paranoid that I will say/do something if I find out about the alcohol? I can't say what the activity is, worried it will lead W here.
