advice...not new here but new again

[ciluzen]

LED, you are doing a great job at being patient.
It is so difficult sometimes to not want all of the answers, all of the info on what H is doing. But the sad fact is, even if we know who the call is to, we don't know the content.
If we knew the content, we don't know the intention.
If we knew the intention, we don't know his true feelings.
If we knew his true feelings at the moment of the call, they may have already changed a minute later.

I still screw up and ask questions and kick myself later. I still wonder what my H is doing or if he is telling me the truth. The fact is...this is why we work on detaching. To keep ourselves off of the crazy-go-round (its not very merry). It all doesn't really matter anyway. DB til you see signs either way. Then DB some more. Its all about patience. You are doing great with that.

Sometimes, picking up the dirty laundry is our job. And sometimes laying his stinky clothes and underwear right on his pillow gets the point across that he forgot to be a big boy and pick them up himself.