I think that that initial statement was just to rile you up - make you hate her, as much as she hates herself for thinking of doing it. She needs you to hate her, she really does.

Well if she was looking for the opposite of what you are, then you should be relieved. My WWs OP is/was a black Nigerian male that plays soccer and speaks french. That is not me by a long-shot. A fantasy no doubt!

Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.