New Couple, Same Old Story 2

[Ralph88]

I think she wants to go to counseling to be in a friendly place with me. I also feel that she is trying to make the divorce smooth. The OM is still completely in the picture, he actually watched my kids this weekend for a day. Wow. I don't care to be her friend, even though my DB advisor recommended it. I am trying to be nicer to her, but detachment and unavailability is seen as mean by her, and I'm not really stopping that.

The 180 for counseling was two fold, with OM still around and her not expressing that she wants to work on M, and me in the past pushing for counciling, when she started pushing for it, I validated and told her I would think about it.

She stated that she felt I was only interested in a romantic relationship with her, and nothing more, meaning if we weren't to be married anymore, there would be no relationship. I didn't really respond, but she understands that I'm still standing for the marriage that she has chosen to leave.