Also DDJ, didn't you mention that she has little in the way of support. For example, my WW has a group of singles at work that I have no doubt are helping her. I would think if your WW has little in support, getting her out would be better for you. At the minute she still has some security in with you, I know you are doing a great job GAL, etc but for me my WW needed out. She needs to experience being a single parent, the single life and decide if that's what she wants for real. It might be, it might not, but in the meantime we let go. My IC also said that letting go is not about stopping caring but letting go of the expectation of results, especially if we are looking for a result to happen by our action. Yes we might win, we might lose but we wil learn and grow.
Trust that we will be alright no matter what, we might not get what we want but we might even find something better. Trust in ourselves, believe in ourselves and they have to go and decide if they want to fix the places we can't. For me, if my WW likes who she is right now then, I will be better off without. I don't see the woman I knew for over 10 years, if she thinks she doesn't need fixing then so be it. It's still hard but it's the way I try to look at it. Do I get it right every day, nope but day by day we will get there.
