You cannot stop her leaving.It is out of your control. Cross the letting her back bridge when/if it arises. For the moment she hasn't even left.

Reread the detachment threads.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together