5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.

[Natus]

Every day a new feeling. I want to think i have a handle on my feelings and so far so good past two days. One minor slip up (waking up in the middle of the night wanting to reach out and pull her into my arms).

I had to go back and reassess my goals and re-read DR. Finding out i may have missed some things in my goal setting by aiming to big to fast and not appreciating small successes.

My wife has started to relax around me, shes sharing and joking and including me in short term plans albeit it involves my son but she didn't need to. I'm trying not to read too much into it.

She is still not wearing her ring and so far no attempts at intimacy save for a few seconds last night her feet brushed up against mine under the covers. It could have just been her shifting in her sleep but she has been very careful since BD to ensure she makes no physical contact with me in bed, to the point she sleeps curled up (to me seems overkill and smacks a little like trying too much) so this brushing feet thing is new.

With my refined set of goals i feel a little better. The only thing i have issue reconciling is that most of the members here seem to take a hard / harsh stance to their WAW. Im just here validating and doing my 180s, do i need to take the hard stance? My IC doesnt seem to think so, he says i should continue being thoughful and validating while not being pushy and pursuing. Granted i am only one month in.