I hear you DDJ, I have found it difficult to but it is the direction we need to go for ourselves. My WW is still short, grumpy and really not someone I want to be around, like has been mentioned, who she is at the moment is not someone j want to be with. Doesn't mean I wil be rude or cold, but my attitude at the moment is that she has what she says she wants. Her own small apartment, OM that I don't know exactly what he is to her, her freedom when she doesn't have the kids. I do want to say why you are still so angry when you have what you wanted but I'm just leaving her to it. For me, as hard as it is to be resented for all the things I did, that she wanted me to do for over the years. I have seen a weight off my shoulders in not walking on eggshells or having to look after her like I did before. Keep telling myself that this is my time to explore and see what is out there. I have started to write my own pros and cons list, questioning if I was getting what I want out of the relationship and questioning if there might be someone better for me out there.
Time will tell and as Sandi has said, if she wants to put me on the market, a better me will be out there.
