So yesterday was supposed to be a breakthrough, but alas, I believe that she is still a little in the fog.
I ask her if she is going to TM, call, email the OP; and she says no. I ask her if she's going to see him if/when he comes down... she says "i don't know".
She is stating that she wants to try and make us work. But i do sense the lack of attraction is still there. I told her yesterday that she has put me through hell for the past 3 months, and that I need about 3 more months to focus on myself, putting her last. I also said that I will "try" not to push her away (that is going to be hard) but that i cannot pull her in either.
So, my plans are not going to change in terms of GALing. I have however stated that I will not treat her like a divorcee in the house (doing her own thing, making her own food), as she does state that she no longer wants to be divorced.
My issue is, is this not just a ploy to lower my guard, so that she can do some cake eating? I refuse to make life easier for her, but do need to try and not make it more uncomfortable.
@doodler, as for sleeping arrangements, well she lays on her side and me on mine. She does rub her feet up against mine just to know i'm there and sometimes she comes and holds me, but I do not show her any affection. My S4 comes in during the night and sleeps between us, which is good, but not in winter as he kicks us open :-) As for interaction during the day, I do not make any contact unless necessary, and then i keep it short. When we get home, i give a cordial "Good afternoon" and only (try to) validate and affirm her. Then it's a cordial "Good night" and I get into my side of the bed. There is no physical contact from my side. Just like a neighbour.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
