24 hours, no contact. This is hard. Miss my kids terribly.
Yes, it is hard! I am sorry you miss your kids. I will say that that part gets easier. The one benefit of separation and co-parenting is that you can allow yourself to miss your kids a little bit. So when you are with them, you can make sure you are more present and focusing on quality time. Less screen time and more enjoying each other. That is priceless.
I think you are getting what it means to DB! You are not initiating contact, however you are not intentionally ignoring her. Continue to respond and be respectful, however keep up the detachment. Polite, courteous, but keep a healthy boundary. If she doesn't want an R with you, then all she gets is simple, matter of fact, communication about kids and logistics. That's it.
I agree with the other posters. This may confuse her and upset her and even cause her to act out. She may be temp checking or testing to see if you are still invested; she doesn't get to do know. Too bad for her! She made this bed, and so naturally she gets to lie in it and eventually wonder if you have moved on. Waywards need to learn that their plan Bs will not sit around and wait for them.
So keep that chin up, detach, and focus on being the best YOU!
You got this! -Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
