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Pato2,
so sorry you're here. But glad you're in the right place if you have to be. You've been given your homework, so get on it. There's a lot of good - specific info. It's great you've gone through DR as there's a lot to absorb.

This is the time to start to put those things in place linked to above, boundaries, distance, validation etc.

You've got to begin to distance yourself, he's got to learn that he can't have you and then when it doesn't suit him, not. By pulling away you should see if he begins to move towards you. If you can, get a DB coach. Every second is valuable. Please continue posting, feel free to give specifics. We're in this together. You've made a step in the right direction already!