Hi Rouky, I'm sorry you're struggling at the moment. Please don't think you could have done things differently though. We do what we do at the time and hindsight is a wonderful thing. H would most likely have done the same regardless of what you did or didn't do back then.
Originally Posted By: Rouky
I remember him telling me that I'll regret my behaviour!
This sounds like H projecting his guilt onto you at the time - my H does this a lot because he cannot take responsibility for his own actions and their consequences. Your H has also done this once before to someone else so it is not you and it wasn't her either, your H has unresolved issues that make him behave this way a certain number of years into a relationship.
Listen to Job's advice. You should do the same thing regardless of H's reasons for doing this. Take care of yourself and your children. What I'm trying to do at the moment is have an activity every day to do with the children that is something to focus on. It doesn't have to be something huge, sometimes for us it is just snuggling up at bedtime to read a story, other times it is to bake some cakes, but it seems to be working for all of us. (((((((((Rouky)))))))))
