Mia, you're not going to "nice" him back. You need to be a strong woman and stand up for what you need. It's like parenting, you don't give the kids whatever they want so they will like you. You have to do what is best for the family, if H decides to be a part of that family or not.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction