Here are two pages to study. Just two pages, but it could change your life and save your MR, if you follow what it says.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2538414#Post2538414

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!