Speaking of dreams, I had a dream two nights ago that I was driving behind another car, not thinking about my speed. I was pulled over by a cop for speeding. I recall feeling like it was unfair, why did the cop pull me over when the car in front of me was setting the pace and I just wasn't noticing? There's some relevant symbolism here that I don't want to ignore.
You're following your wife's footprints of having an affair (speeding). You post about it on here and you're getting called out (pulled over). Just because your wife is cheating, that doesn't make it OK for you to cheat too. Again, this is all happening in front of your son. I hope he's able to realize how wrong all of this is and doesn't make the same mistakes in his life.
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If my STBXW was more honest from the beginning, instead of always avoiding conflict, then I think we probably would have figured out this incompatibility much sooner.
This sounds like you're blaming the failure of your marriage completely on your wife. What did you do or not do that contributed to your marriage ending this way? What are you doing or have you done to make sure your next relationship doesn't end the same way?
As long as you're seeing OW as your soul mate, you're in the fog. It's the same for your wife and OM.
