WAW still angry, moved out, D on the way?

[CWOL]

I have spoken with an L fortunately. I saw some signs early on, and got advice to try and protect myself. It is just disheartening how one can take so much history and toss it in the name of just trying to "win" in a D situation. I really want it to just end, but I still have not been served, and she is playing so many childish games with our finances and children that it just sad.

Yes, I spoke to an L several weeks before she filed, because I snooped and found her L's retainer agreement by accident. In anticipation, I built up some defenses to prevent her from draining our accounts, but they are pulling every little trick in the book to try to extract any scraps of dollars from me. In one item, they were arguing about insurance cost difference of $24. She doesn't realize she got billed several thousands for that!

I am just very sad that this woman I married for 18 years would stoop so low. It's not enough that she only works 15 hours, but she wants me to guarantee her lifestyle even when we are divorced. That is the most galling part of this whole thing.