Yes! As part of my growing I never want my old marriage back. I see the things she did not like, i see things i did not like. It is almost crazy how clear things are now to me.

As far as the friend zone I do get that, but i also feel you have to be friends on some level. For me i battled with feeling she replaced me with her friends before BD and it caused a lot of tension. I now see that we need to actually connect on some of those levels in order for us to be happy together. I will never replace her friends nor try to but i do want her to see me like she sees them to some extent.

I also do not intend to stay in that friend zone, but it is a very integral part of rebuilding a relationship.

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15